For example, in making an appointment to meet a friend at a certain time, it’s reasonable to be flexible about the time we expect them to arrive. If they are late and don’t meet our expectation, allowing for a late bus or heavy traffic, rather than immediately assuming the worst, makes for some give and take in our relationship with that person without giving up our self-respect.
For example, have you ever found yourself with a full list of things to do and then decided to do “just one more thing” because you thought it was expected of you? Or, is there something in your life that you want to accomplish that never gets further than being a distant dream, waiting on something (or someone) to give you the money, time or permission to make a start?
A sure sign of “unreasonable” expectations is beginning something for the first time and expecting immediate success, only to become impatient when things don’t happen straight away and giving up. Ask any musician if they could play Beethoven’s, “Moonlight Sonata” the very first time they picked up an instrument. The answer is sure to be, “Of course not!”
Success comes through patient practice, making a start, passing milestones of smaller accomplishments and persevering on the way to achieving our larger goals.
Life truly becomes fulfilling when we stop expecting our dreams to happen and start doing what it takes to make them happen.