Leadership of ourselves comes before leadership of others. We all grow at different speeds and in different ways, ways that are meaningful to us as individuals. When we understand and respect ourselves we are a leader of ourselves, then we have the tools to lead others.
When we set up expectations and judge ourselves for not living up to those expectations, we can get caught up in learned patterns of fear and worry that can throw us out of balance, churning up our emotions at the expense of our peace of mind.

When we judge others we set up expectations that may allow thoughts of “greater than” and “lesser than” to creep in, sabotaging the other person’s ability to learn and grow at his or her own pace and, in turn, bringing ourselves discontent.

It is then that we are no longer a leader either of ourselves or of others.

The key is to understand yourself, where you have been and where you are going in life. Effective leaders inspire others to follow them, but to inspire others you must first feel that inspiration within yourself.


Have you ever decided that your life was not working out the way you intended and chosen to move to a different place to make a fresh start? Did it work out for you or did the same issues come up again after a while? The reason is that our happiness is within us, not attached to a place or situation outside us. We carry the potential for happiness within us as much as we also carry the potential for unhappiness.

If you are not feeling happy and fulfilled it is time to stop and take stock of your life, where you are at and where you want to be. You cannot please everyone. If you try to please everyone, you will please no one and be left feeling let down, resentful and unfulfilled.

Ask yourself “Who am I doing this for? Am I doing this because someone else expects me to or am I doing it because it feels right for me?” Remember that you are in charge. You are the leader of yourself and of your own life. It’s time to live your own truth. Find out and celebrate who you are and what you truly want out of life. You then become a true leader of yourself and an inspiration and leader to others.

By demonstrating strong inspiring leadership of yourself in your own life you will automatically inspire others to become strong inspired leaders of themselves.

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